Foster Care and Adoption

"Watching sooo many people adopting all around me...oh my heart..be still. I know that we are doing what we are called to do (fostering). Though that was never really part of ”the plan.” I just have to laugh at the plans we have... because they never really seem to happen..God shakes us and writes the story His plan. Its all about Him. So once again learning patience knowing in His time it will be our turn. After all Ive heard it said and have to agree..its really not about adding to our family..its about giving a child a home ♥ Which we are doing..even if they don't have our last name. :) So many things on my heart....In everything there is a season.."

Yesterday I posted this status.  I just had to further expand that I am SO excited that so many people around me are choosing to open their lives and hearts and homes to children in need, and  everyone is working together for the greater good  to make Him known, which really is what I love.  I am in no way saying that what we are doing is any LESS important.  I am so excited that God is using us in this moment.  We waited for so long to be used by Him in this area and in no way was I saying the comment above to complain in any way or make it seem like I am not so excited to be used.  I am so excited to have these babe's in my home.  Sometimes God's plans aren't what we originally pictured.  I am okay with that because I know His plans are always better than my own.   Yesterday I was just having one of those moments wondering what the future holds.   I am at peace knowing that I don't know and that's okay because I know the one who holds the future.  After all .. none of this is about "me."  It's all about Him.  Making Him known.   I pray that everything we do leads those in our lives. Those that see us and know us and the children we bring in to know Him.  


If you know someone  or you feel like that tug on your heart strings to foster.  Don't ever talk yourself out of it by saying, "Its to hard I can't do it because I would get too attached."    Any foster mom who doesn't get attached and doesn't feel heart ache when the child they have loved so dearly goes home isn't a good foster mom.  We are all adults and these children need someone to love them fully and they fully deserve to be loved whole heartedly.  If you ever feel the call to adopt don't talk yourself out of it by saying, "It's too expensive " or whatever else may come in your mind. The desires and the things God has placed on your heart to do.. He WILL provide for.  If you feel the tug on your heart pray about it and go after it.  I can tell you that it will be 100% worth it.    I have had many people say to me, "wow what a wonderful thing you are giving these children."  When in reality they have taught me so much.  They are giving me something special and have blessed me.  It is an honor.  It's not always easy.  The ride is a roller coaster of emotions.   :)  If you would like more information on either.  How to get started with fostering  or foster -adopt.  Please message me and I would LOVE to help you get started.  

Here is another blog that talks about foster care and the call:

http://foster2forever.com/2012/07/orphan-ministry.html

James 1

James 1

King James Version (KJV)

1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes which are scattered abroad, greeting.

² My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

³ Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

⁴ But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

⁵ If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

⁶ But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

⁷ For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.

⁸ A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

⁹ Let the brother of low degree rejoice in that he is exalted:

¹⁰ But the rich, in that he is made low: because as the flower of the grass he shall pass away.

¹¹ For the sun is no sooner risen with a burning heat, but it withereth the grass, and the flower thereof falleth, and the grace of the fashion of it perisheth: so also shall the rich man fade away in his ways.

¹² Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.

¹³ Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:

¹⁴ But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.

¹⁵ Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

¹⁶ Do not err, my beloved brethren.

¹⁷ Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

¹⁸ Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.

¹⁹ Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

²⁰ For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.

²¹ Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.

²² But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.

²³ For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:

²⁴ For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.

²⁵ But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.

²⁶ If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.

²⁷ Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself un spotted from the world.

TWO Months of Sweet Craziness

Today marks two months since I went with my little sister  C to pick up the newest additions to our family.  I can remember the day like yesterday.  We went and picked them up and they were just getting to their previous fm's from a visit with their bm and bd. We gathered all of their things loaded  everyone in the van and were on our way.  I remember thinking,  " yay we finally have a placement and they will be with us more than just a couple weeks."  On the way home we sang N's favorite song (Deep and Wide) and then Jesus Loves Me.  I looked through my mirror and thought this is BLISS.  Even though it has only been two months it feels like they have always been a part of our family.  This is one of the many tough part of foster care (loving children as your own but knowing they will/could go back with their parents).  It's been absolutely craziness at times. The first week was definitely the hardest.  It's sweet though now when the kids get home from school they hug each other and act as life never went on without each other in it.  There are days when sibling rivalry gets the best of them and days when I look over  and they are playing so sweet together.  Now that we have all settled into our routine's life is much easier (but not any quieter or any less crazy).  We have settled into our "new" normal.   For now I will enjoy every moment.  Enjoy little giggles and sweet craziness.  Enjoying and loving and pouring everything we have into these little guys while they are in our home.  Even though we are mommy and daddy now...  and may not always have that special spot in their lives, they will always on this side of heaven have a praying mommy and daddy even if they aren't ours "officially."    

Really because our children aren't ours anyways... they are His and we are just stewards over them.  

So as I pray over the babies from my belly I pray over these little ones too;

Dedicated to you all my sweet little ones. 

Love,  

 Mommy

The Stages of Labor

It has been so long since I've last posted.  In the last almost 3 years I felt like there have been so many things the Lord has spoke to our hearts.  Over the last two years we feel like God has shown us that we have been pregnant with something.  This may sound a little odd for some of you but just go with me for a second.   Three years ago when the Lord told us to start getting our license and foster to adopt we felt like we were almost pregnant with this dream/vision.   Over the last two years we have felt like we have gone through different stages of labor.  The beginning of the "pregnancy" as we will call it we were excited and felt extreme joy about the desire the Lord placed in our hearts and what was yet to come.   Shortly after we were licensed in April of 2010 we got a call about an opportunity to place our home study in on a baby named James.  At that time we felt like the Lord told me to go and open up the book of James and read it. It's funny because although I have read the book of James before I have never paid as much attention or have felt like the Lord spoke to me through it as much as he did this time.  As I opened the book of James and began reading in the second through fourth vs. says, "My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.  But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, and lacking nothing."   We felt immediately that the Lord was going to begin working on the area of Patience in our life.  As I continued to read throughout James there were so many things that we felt like the Lord was speaking to us.  We did not have the opportunity to interview for this baby but I knew that through this God was showing us something.    A while later we had the opportunity to submit our home study on a precious little girl named Patience. We submitted our home study and waited and then later got a call saying we were chosen to interview to adopt little one.  It was an exciting time interviewing for our first time.  If I would have just looked at her name and realized that this was just another thing to teach me PATIENCE.  We interviewed and it wasn't until a month and a half later we found out we were not chosen to adopt her. (God really knows what He is doing.)  This we realized was the point in labor called transition.   Transition during labor is the part of labor when you feel that you can't go on that you are DONE.  You want to give up and feel like you can't press on.  We felt like God was never going to allow us to be used.  We also thought about giving up our license several times because we thought, "what is the point of continuing all this training for nothing."  Looking back we realize how God’s timing is perfect and there are SO many things He taught us before bringing us to the point that we are now. 
................ to be continued

Waiting

So we seem to be in the season of waiting! It has been so long since I have written. Littlest baby is now almost 9 months old! I can't believe that time has gone by so quickly. It seems like not long ago we got licensed for foster-adot ... and yet it is going to be 2 years coming up here soon. Two years of turning in our home studies on different kids and we've only have one interview up until now.  I really just have to trust God that HE has a plan and I just need to be patient and wait on His timing.

* Well we did get chosen during this time to interview for a little girl..it's obvious that the Lord is teaching me PATIENCE! lol :)  We ended up not getting chosen which we later found out was a good thing because her foster mom decided to adopt her!  I love it how God spared our hearts from getting hurt and attached because in the end HE knew that she wasn't supposed to be ours! God is SO awesome!!!!

Be still and KNOW that I am GOD!

Psalm 46:10

A new little blessing!

So we heard back from our agency regarding the possible adoption! They found a home for baby J. We are excited for him knowing that he is in the right home that the Lord has for him.  We are also at peace knowing that when the time is right the Lord will show us and bring to us the son we are supposed to adopt. God knew and know's the perfect timing and he knew when Briellah was going to come.

A few days after we found out about Baby J being placed we gave birth to our Beautiful baby girl! She was born at 6:06 am weighing 6 lbs 7 oz and was 18 inches long. She was born on January 8, 2011. She is 4 days today and has been such a great blessing to our home. Our other children absolutely adore her and so does her mommy and daddy! :)

We are busy snuggling, adjusting, lounging, and enjoying our days with daddy home this week. He is making the transition so much easier. He goes back Saturday for the day and then will be home for the weekend again! So next Tuesday will be our official day getting things back to normal. I think it will be a pretty good transition but also am a little nervous about having 4 littles 5 and under! But so ready to get things back to normal and start homeschooling again after our break for Christmas and then our little break after baby. I feel so blessed right now! Abundantly blessed!